Single Life

Admit it, ladies. 

Sometimes we just want to skip to the part where we meet Prince Charming, fall madly in love, and live happily ever after. It’s those days we become discontent with the season of life we’re in right now: Singleness.

Oops, I said the “s” word. 

Contrary to popular belief, there is nothing wrong with being single. We are not broken. We are not unlovable. Loneliness, fear, and discontentment are actually lies that prevent us from becoming the women we were created to be. 

The truth is that our human relationship status does not define us. Adding another person to our lives will not bring security, purpose, or identity apart from God. To have any kind of healthy relationship (not just the romantic kind), we must first understand the character of God and who we are to Him. There is freedom in knowing who we are. That freedom will one day allow a man to compliment us, rather than require him to complete us.

A woman who is secure in her identity, strong in her faith, and unafraid to do the will of her Father is a dangerous woman to the enemy. She is dangerous as a single, and she will be even more dangerous as a wife and mother. The enemy will do everything he can to make sure we don’t know who we are. Being single is the perfect time for us to go deeper in our walk with the Lord and discover who we are. It is a time of adventure; a unique period in which we can focus wholly on pursuing the Father's heart. 

If we want to make the most of this time, we must stop viewing singleness as a desert — a dry season with an oasis of marriage at the end of the journey. Our single years can (and should!) be a constructive time. Once anchored in our Father's love, we will be empowered to meet our destiny - whether that is a marriage, a career, a ministry, or all of the above.

Once Jesus has captivated our hearts, the fun begins. Single years, when surrendered to Jesus, are a training ground for us to develop our talents and use our gifts to bless others. They give us plenty of time and freedom to be about our Father's business. For some of us, that may simply look like giving 110% of ourselves to our jobs, our education, or our families. 

Ladies, marriage is God's plan for many of us. But it's simply not the only thing this life has to offer, nor is it the sole reason we were placed on this earth. Instead of waiting for Prince Charming to carry us away, let’s start chasing the Lover of our souls. Let's dare to give our dreams back to the Dream Giver, and surrender to His timing. 

The good news is that we don't have to place our lives on hold until we get married! Jesus came so we could have Life and have it abundantly— right now. He has adventures planned for us while we are single, so why are we sitting around waiting for the next chapter in life? 

“Delight yourself in the Lord, and he will give you the desires of your heart.”

 — Psalm 37.4